The game and dating advice for men
Absence creates anticipation and a feeling of "If I don't see her now, I'll die." When he calls, "let your voice mail pick up now and then," says Sherry Argov, author of .
"It shows him that you're worth the wait and effort.
"Men are hunters, and they want to discover for themselves what makes you tick," says Fisher.
"That curiosity drives up the levels of dopamine in his brain, a chemical that fuels the mad-love feeling." Kreidman adds: "When you reveal something that's truly weighty, he'll feel like he's earned your trust." What's in it for you?
Rebecca, 20, realized this worked when she went to her new boyfriend Ken's office Christmas party.
Casually talk to cute men in his presence, mention male friends in your conversations ("Javier said the funniest thing the other day..."), and let him witness other guys checking you out.
"Men often fear losing their independence, but when a woman hints that she doesn't need a guy, suddenly his fears of being smothered vanish and he's begging to be penned into your day planner." And, says Kreidman, "too many women brush off their friends and hobbies for a man.
Playing this game gives her a better grip on balancing her life."The game plan: Plain and simple — tickle his jealousy bone.
Simply let your guy know that you're very interested in getting together..you're not at tango class, working on your screenplay or dining with friends.
"Show him that he won't dictate the terms of your relationship and that your life is not on hold for him," says Argov.
Early-stage TMI is a major turn-off for most males.